6 'red flags' that psychologist says are actually green

Dr. Kyle Osbourne, a clinical psychologist on TikTok, is helping people identify the crucial signs of relationship health through his series of videos titled "Green flags in a relationship that you probably thought were red flags." In his videos, Osbourne discusses behaviors that are sometimes mistakenly seen as negative but are actually signs of a well-rounded and healthy personality. His insights have resonated with millions, offering a fresh perspective on relationship dynamics and how to cope with common issues.

In his first video, Osbourne addresses the concern many people have when their relationship feels "boring." He explains that individuals accustomed to chaotic and unpredictable environments might find stability unsettling, mistakenly equating calmness with a lack of passion. Osbourne suggests asking oneself whether the relationship is genuinely functional and healthy or if the discomfort arises from not being used to a drama-free life.

In another part of the series, Osbourne challenges the notion that a partner not actively chasing after you is a red flag. He explains that individuals with "anxious pre-occupied attachments" often test their partner's commitment by being distant, expecting to be pursued. If the partner instead offers space, it can be misunderstood as disinterest. Osbourne encourages people to consider whether their partner's behavior truly indicates a lack of interest or is simply a respectful way of allowing space for self-reflection.

Osbourne also touches on the topic of partners having other priorities outside the relationship. He points out that people with past experiences of abandonment might try to control their partner's time to feel secure. They may misinterpret a partner's commitment to other relationships or interests as neglect. However, Osbourne suggests that a partner who maintains other important connections is likely emotionally healthy and well-rounded.

Lastly, the psychologist discusses the importance of healthy arguments. Disagreements are natural in any relationship, given that two individuals will inevitably have different values and perspectives. The key, Osbourne emphasizes, is how these arguments are handled. He encourages viewing disagreements as opportunities to understand each other better, rather than as indicators of a problematic relationship.

Through his videos, Dr. Kyle Osbourne provides a refreshing take on what makes a relationship healthy. His advice helps viewers navigate the complexities of love with a clearer understanding of what behaviors are truly beneficial.

This article was originally published on July 31, 2024. It has since been updated.