12 pieces of bad advice that are way too common

When it comes to life advice, everyone has something to say. While some words of wisdom stand the test of time, others can be misleading or downright unhelpful. We asked our Facebook audience, "What's a common piece of advice that people swear by, but is actually untrue?" Our community shared some of the most commonly accepted pieces of advice that might not hold up under scrutiny. Here are twelve responses that challenge popular beliefs.

This advice sounds noble, but it can be harmful if taken to extremes. As Katelynn M. shared, "love can be unconditional - but relationships can't be. Sometimes, you have to love someone from a distance because they're not healthy in your life." Self-preservation and boundaries are essential.

Shannon T. called out the fallacy of this corporate mantra: "No, it won't! You just end up getting exploited and doing the work of 3 or 4 other people." Hard work doesn't always lead to recognition or reward, particularly in exploitative environments.

Raisa M. expressed frustration with toxic positivity: "I'm fkin tired of this toxic positivity always everywhere." Genuine empathy and understanding, rather than forcing a positive outlook, are more supportive for those dealing with chronic issues like depression, as Tina S. pointed out.

Contrary to this common marital advice, Rhonda K. noted, "Sometimes you just need some sleep to regulate your emotions!" Taking a break to cool down can be more productive than trying to resolve conflicts while tired and emotional.

Lauren M. W. argued against this advice: "No. Occasionally people should be put in their place." While kindness is important, standing up for oneself and setting boundaries can be just as crucial.

Lorna L. corrected this misconception: "The customer is always right in regards to taste." Often, customers can be unreasonable and manipulative. It's important for businesses to support their employees against unjust complaints.

Allison B. debunked this saying: "Nah fam get out there and make it happen." Passive waiting rarely brings opportunities; proactive effort is often required to achieve goals.

Carmen L. emphasized the need for practicality: "Nope. You need to keep your brain in the game." Emotions can mislead, and important decisions should balance both heart and mind.

This phrase can feel dismissive to those suffering. As Chris G. simply stated, it's not always comforting or true.

Jürgen A. suggested a more balanced approach: "Kinda true…but the husband has to be happy, too." Healthy relationships require mutual happiness and respect.

Claire A. shared her discomfort with this method: "Let your kids cry themselves to sleep… it will soon stop them." Many argue that this approach can lead to lasting emotional impacts. Responding to a baby’s needs helps foster secure attachment and independence later in life.

Kristin T. and Bridget A. W. both challenged this idea, pointing out that trauma doesn't necessarily lead to strength. There are less painful ways to grow and build resilience.

Challenging commonly accepted advice can be uncomfortable, but it's crucial to recognize when traditional wisdom might not serve us well. By questioning and re-evaluating these sayings, we can foster healthier, more realistic approaches to life's challenges.

Editor's Note: The article was originally published in July 2024.